I am fully aware I've been MIA. Sorry, Wits McGee readers, (all 3 of you) for neglecting the blog. I got a new job, you see, and I've been on the road for over a month. Literally. I hadn't been home in so long that when I went to my place to re-pack my suitcase and switch out clothes I discovered that my electricity had been turned off. OOPS. What kind of bonehead forgets to pay her electricity? Not my proudest moment. I had no idea how long it had been off so I spent 30 minutes (and 4 gigantic garbage bags) emptying my fridge/freezer. Do you have any idea how many condiments I had in there?! DAMN. I had a note from the mailman that I needed to come pick up my mail. I had 6 packages waiting at my apartment office. My parents are tired of watching my dog. On the plus side, my HiltonHonors points have skyrocketed. Vacation, anyone?
T sent me a link for a very interesting article last week that I couldn't read until just now due to said new job. Are you being e-maintained? Long story short - the author discusses the concept of e-maintenance, which is defined as a man "checking in" via social media/electronic communication to give the woman the impression he is into her. The former courting phase of sending flowers, nice dinners, or even phone calls has been replaced by emails, texts, and Facebook communication to "maintain" the woman; thus giving her a false sense of "he geniuinely cares about my life!"
- not the best way to express your affection, gentlemen.
What an interesting concept.
I'll admit, I've absolutely been a sucker for the e-maintenance more times than I'd like to admit. He's dreamy. He lives in California. It's completely unrealistic, BUT he just texted me he can't stop thinking about me. Swoon. Is that supposed to be a compliment? I can't decide. At least the next time I'm in LA I have someone to grab cocktails with. Win?
On the other hand, I've been completely guilty of doing it, as well. I've shot a few texts in the past just touching base because, who knows, maybe he's interesting now. Or I was just drunk and bored. Don't judge - you'e done it too.
So the question is... so what? The article makes women out to be desperate, needy, and pathetic. While there are a large number of women who behave in such a fashion, I must be the exception. I often joke that I was a guy in my previous life. I live for college football. Drama annoys me. I drink more than necessary or socially acceptable. I don't date just to get free meals. In fact, I do quite the opposite. If you ask me out to dinner and I'm not interested, I'm not going. I would feel too bad about wasting your time (and mine) and your money. Dating these days is too much of a headache so I generally avoid it at all costs. I digress.
Maybe this is why I have conflicting feelings on e-maintenance. For the most part, I think that e-maintenance is generally ok - TO A POINT. Lets be clear. Friendly innocent flirting is fine, but once a guy crosses the line where feelings start to get involved, e-maintenance can be hurtful and downright mean. At that point, you know exactly what you're doing.
I'm just a hopeless romantic/relationship cynic so what do I know.
(how is that combination even possible?!)
SM
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